कलम से…


एक बेधड़क सी लड़की डर कर जीने लगी

खाना तो क्या साँसे भी पूछ कर लेने लगी

शिखर पर पहुँच कर फिर शून्य पर आ गई

सुनी गलियों को अब वो यूँ ही निहारने लगी

समझ नहीं आ रहा कि उसे ऐसे बंधन में क्यों बाँध दिया

समाज के डर से उसके माता पिता ने उससे उसका बचपन छीन लिया

अपनी इच्छाओं को मार कर आज उसने भी जीना सीख लिया

समय के साथ आज उसने आँसू पीना भी सीख लिया

एक किनारे में बैठ कर घर को याद करना भी सीख लिया

तस्वीरों को देख कर ही मुस्कुराना सीख लिया

आज सोच रही है अगर उसकी माँ, भाभी बहन सब ने यही सहा

फिर क्यों उसे इस कड़वी सच्चाई से रखा क्यों जुदा

दहेज़ की बलि चढ़े या इच्छओं की , मारना तो है ही

क्यों उसे झूठे सपने दिखा कर इस शादी के प्रलोभन में फसा दिया

चुप रहना, कमरे में रहना उसकी फितरत में नहीं था

उसे हसना , बोलना और गुनगुनाना पसन्द था

आज घर की चौखट से पैर बहार नहीं रख सकती वो

जिसे हर रोज़ बहार आना जाना पसंद था

सब का ख़याल रखना सब कहते है , उसके खयाल की किसी को याद नहीं आती

सब की पसंद का ध्यान है उसे पर अपनी पसंद वो किसी को बता नहीं पाती

एक बोलने पर वो सब का कर देती पर उसका सुनने वाला कोई नहीं है

कहती रहती है महीने भर पहले से वो , तब भी उसकी इच्छाएँ पूरी नहीं हो पाती

पति के हिसाब से खुद को बदलो

घर के हिसाब से मन को बदलो

सब की उम्मीदों को पूरा करो

अपनी इच्छाओं को दफ़न करो

सब से मिल कर रहो

धीरे कहो ज़ोर से ना हँसो

बड़ो से बात भी मत करो

शर्म और लिहाज का लबादा ओढ़े रहो

मुस्कुराने का झूठा ढोंग चालू रखो

दूसरों को भी ऐसा करने के लिए प्रेरित करो

Do let me know your views about marriage .

And correct me wherever I am wrong..☺☺☺👍

Thanks & Regards

Virus_miki

13 thoughts on “कलम से…

  1. Well that’s true,,..!!! But in a single day no one can change

    Need time.
    But
    For girls they are left with no time.

    From day 1 or the same day itself….

    And this is not with one.. but with all

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  2. Everyone should marry; after all happiness is not the only thing is this world. Many of the greatest thinkers all over the world have warned us against the fallacies of the marriage. It was a nice poem Miki, quiet effectively evoking your emotions. Marriage is one of the most complex relationship in our life. The crests and troughs are far too much here to have a perfect summation. I agree with you that our culture has been a bit partial to boys being a patriarchal society and though there is an upsurge in the independence given in pre marital life to a girl, after marriage absurd rules and bylaws of the home seem to us like fetters. It is a difficult task to adapt to the new surroundings and when the adaptation is on single side the task seems overwhelming. But i believe in family system of out country which though have a tinge of negativity now, the rules were drafted to bring harmony, a sense of discipline in the house. However the negativity and rigidity have taken place in traditions. As per me i view marriage as a new job where at first you have a honeymoon period, no one is scolding you, nobody is loading you with extra work and you feel you are on top of the world. Then comes the Probation period where you suddenly find yourself at the end of your wit. Since now you are familiar with the drill a lot of things are expected from you and suddenly you find that you are left all alone to fight the inner demons. You are derided for small mistakes or sometimes for no mistake at all and it is the time where you need most of the patience. After this comes the phase of regularisation. You are now firmly inducted in the team and you are now on similar frequency. if you have been patient enough in the probation period you are now able to wield enough power to change rules. Ultimately for me marriage is all about trust . Trust in mutual love, respect and affection and things suddenly look brighter.

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    1. No … It’s not job … Job also have vacation and Sundays but in a married girl’s life thr is no off days

      You can’t sleep whenever you feel sleepy
      You can’t keep talking on phone
      You have to work all the time
      Plus the overwhelming dress and jhuta dikhawa
      And everyone keep judging you
      You have to keep working for hours
      Agr khali baith gae to they will ask ki ye khali ku hai

      Even aap to apne periods me bhi bina kaam kiye nahi reh skte

      If you can’t touch kitchen so clean your bathroom

      Yrrr wo mera bathroom hai jb meri marzi hogi tb saaf krungi
      Mera room hai mera bed hai mn hoga toh krungi nahi toh rhne dungi

      Muje khud k liye bhi space do

      Tumhare rishtedaar ko apna saja hua saa room dikha kr impress nahi krna hai muje

      Muje ek din toh bikhre hue room me rehne do

      Tumhare bete ko bhi sikhao subh uth kr bedsheets proper krna and chadar fold krna

      Why always me to do this.????

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      1. Sorry for late reply ! Just saw the message ,
        Very sad to hear all these for a person who is such a wonderful person, It seems difficult but you need to be assertive a bit

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